It's no secret anymore

Ok. This is going to be one of those annoying whiny nagging piffle posts, but bear with me. I have to be inarticulate sometimes. The things I think are often unintelligible anyway.

I'm sick of ambiguity and politeness.

Welcome to The Suck.

I am so incredibly, unbelievably SICK of all of you out there who think you are BETTER than someone else for any of the following reasons:
- wealth
- socioeconomic background
- appearance
- intelligence
- any individual trait or unchangeable aspect of your life.

I am smart. So go fuck yourself. You know I am. Strangely enough, I don't use this against other people. Oh but you do, Rosie! I would like someone to demonstrate an instance in which I have used my intelligence to my advantage or to criticise someone else where they haven't used my weight as something to have a go at me about. People constantly use this reason, my weight, as a reason to look down on me. I'm seen as less of a person, ironically, because of my weight! People think it is fine to look down on someone because they are different. People assume that it is acceptable to ostracize someone for a reason that they believe outlines them as superior. People think that if you can't be them, then you don't deserve their time. They believe that money automatically assumes you as a classy subject, as well spoken, as gifted, talented or otherwise embellished with positive attributes all equalling 'better human'.

So the ideas are out there.

First of all - wealth. I would like someone to explain to me exactly what it is that established wealth as a powerbroker in what makes you better than someone. Ok, I acknowledge that wealth, monetarily, that is, allows you privilege, status and the ability to purchase the necessary commodities that see you, in the Western world, recognised as higher in the stratum than others. However, I do not see how on earth these people - you people, if you are reading - can justify this as a means of determining who is worthy, who is superior, inferior or equal to you. Money does not equal class - we learn this from the prostitutes-in-training who were at PLC, who made a porn video. Not exactly a classy move. Money does not equal brains - we learn this from the fact that only one or two schools that demand excessive fees had perfect graduation rates in 2005. Money does not equal a more charitable or compassionate person - if rich people were more charitable or compassionate, then they wouldn't be rich, would they? Go figure. Money does not mean success - success is, rather, measured by the amount of goals achieved in proportion to those set. Money can not be used as a means of gaining a foot up on those who have less than you, because in no way does it make you you as person a better human.

Socioeconomic background - mainly determined by wealth but also by other factors including but not limited to occupation/providers occupation/location of home/type and number of car/s owned/family situation and/or school/college attended (at least in this stage of our lives).
What strikes me most violently about socioeconomic background is that at this stage in our lives, we are mostly unable to determine most of the things listed above. The fact that people can judge and hence look down on others because of the reasons listed is absurd, for many reasons but mainly because for most people these material factors do not determine nor dictate their lives or choice of lifestyle. People who judge on this basis are painfully unaware of their lack of depth in fathoming a person's worth, and this is clearly demonstrated through the fact that they are willing to judge because of this! That someone can be defined by an item of clothing, a material possession or the luck of the draw for employment is ridiculous. If someone can point me in the way of understanding how exactly it may not be ridiculous, I would be most amused to listen to what you have to say.

By God I'm getting tired.

Appearance, some people believe, is something that can be helped, changed, modified, at least in the sense of weight, hairstyle, clothing, makeup, clothing accessories, manbags etc. However, to judge on appearance is to deny the presence of the more integral aspect of one's overall impact as a person, and that is personality. To judge on looks is to have little or no regard for personality. This may seem extreme to some people. You may think "Yeah, but I can look at you Rosie and even though you're fat I know you're a nice/mean/silly person." you see, the thing is, if you even THINK of me as rosie:fat, you are already warping my impact on you by associating with me, subsequently, the connotations of fat in Western society; that is, laziness, stupidness, ugliness, and basic no-hoperness. Even if you don't think THOSE exact things - they are part of your society-learnt views on fat, and you cannot ever change that. If I lose weight, you will see me as the girl who lost weight to look better/to get healthier/to be more attractive, each of which carries further meaning to HOW you get me. (I'm using myself as an example because it's easier to translate onto the page). It all boils down to the fac that if you judge on appearance, it's going to make everything else more difficult. By looking down on someone because of appearance, a hark-on from judgement, you are establishing yourself as a person with whom no one can associate depth or quality of judgement with - because looking down on someone is deciding you're better than them. Appearance is, remember, subjective. Just because you look down on me because I'm fat, in a tribe somewhere in Africa YOU could be considered the inferior person because you are thin.

Are you sticking with me? It's hard, I know.

Intelligence! Now this is hard for me to write about - because as a smart person, I find it incredibly difficult at times to not diss people based on their intelligence (or lack thereof) when all they can do is pay me out for being fat. It is hard. And I probably sound really stuck up here. But if I don't say it, who will? You must forgive lack of honesty and in exchange take a pinch of salt with my view of the world. However, I will try to be objective.
To judge someone on their intelligence is to disregard their humanity and the fact that perhaps they've just never been taught. One cannot learn, as I am constantly telling my mum while trying to cook things I've never cooked before, if one is not taught. On another blog I read, a girl who will not be named occasionally makes comments that perhaps other people would scoff at and say "pooh! I would never say something that silly! I am too smart for that!" I am guilty of it. I do apologise, yet I also use that to speak from experience. However, what we fail to recognise is that to most people, what they say makes sense to them. What they say is a reflection of what they think, and although they may not express it as eloquently as others, the fact that they are expressing it should command respect. We judge on intelligence because we believe it is a natural gift, but it is taught, it is learnt. People do not become smart by being born to gifted parents, but learn to think in a cognitively-sensitive manner that allows them to utilise skills and knowledge provided. To look down on someone because of their intelligence is to once again, as in other instances of other traits, deny the importance of a multi-faceted system - that is, the complexity of the human psyche.

Enough of my psychobabble!
The final point pertains to those above in an effort to tie each to the other and to illustrate that traits, changeable but mostly unchangealbe do not allow you to look down on someone.

This is all about respect. We seem to have lost respect for each other, for diversity and for difference. Perhaps an appreciation for such qualities would lead us to a new cycle - where we never have a need to look down on each other.

Yawn!
bed for me, at least in the next hour :D
xox